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The one on mother’s day

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there ! In recent years, my thoughts on this special day have often drifted from the actual celebration. I have thought about it from my feminist, or a consumerist point of view, but this is not what I want to talk about today. Today, I wish to have a special thought for these other women.

The woman who wished she were a mum, but couldn’t. Asking her when she plans on having her baby, will only deepen her pain. Pain from a disease that she does not want to share with you. Pain from a financial situation that is not suitable for raising a child. Pain from a society that will not equally accept an LGBT+ person to raise one.

But she might also feel none of these. She might be one of the women who simply do not desire having a child. And our society is not as tolerant with her. She has less value as a woman than a mother, because it is still in people’s mentalities that women are supposed to want and have children. Her freedom of choice and her own values are belittled by implying that she has not met the right man yet. Her identity as an adult is stripped when being said that she is not mature enough and that she will eventually change her mind.

One in seven European women and one in five American women will not have children, by choice or by circumstance. Their lives do not matter less than the ones of mothers and they do not need to have children to lead fulfilling and altruistic lives. I would actually question the reasons why some women want to have children rather than the opposite, which is independent from the fact that I am sure most women truly love their children.

Finally, I wouldn’t like to forget the billions of mothers that nobody thinks about on Mother’s Day. The mothers who love their children so much, but whose babies are taken away from them by strangers to suffer a more dreadful fate. The mothers whose motherhood is exploited for unnecessary human profit. The mothers whose painful grief will never end.

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The one on radicalism

Do you think being a radical or an extremist is necessary, or is it rather dangerous ? Do you think moderating your speech is the best way for making a change ? I have been called a radical in my opinions and an extremist in my acts. Putting aside the pejorative meaning of these terms, I came to agree that I am radical … and so should everybody else.

I notice the words “radical” and “extreme” are used in a very ignorant way, pejoratively, and so perceived by most people as negative. Radical people pursue a complete reform, they fight an issue at its roots, while extremists hold political views that exceed the ordinary, or the reasonable according to common interpretations. Now that the definitions are settled …

In our society, people are expected to moderate their speech in fear of coming out as intolerant, or narrow-minded. The ruling powers, as represented in mainstream media and educating systems for example, do not encourage us to take positions, and lead us to adopt a passive behaviour. So they cultivate this moderation – or as I like to call it, mediocrity.

Yet moderation does not often lead to real tangible changes. Every social change in History was promoted by radical movements, with ideas that were considered extremist at that time : democracy, racial justice, labor movements, abolitionnist movements …

Revolutions make evolutions.

In fact, being radical means being coherent in your opinions, being logical, upright. It means fighting a problem at its roots, instead of hiding behind “normality” and a moderated speech. Tolerating an opinion that you believe is wrong does not only not lead to progression, but also approves the current state of things.

Actually, extremism is already present everywhere around us. Our opinions are not flexible – not moderated – on murder, on rape, on torture. We are radical about these subjects, because they involve a victim. In some countries, these are accepted by the legislation, but it does not mean we have to tolerate them, and be passive about it. We protest against these practices because it is not their freedom to do so.

One person’s freedom ends where another’s begins.

Our behaviours are extreme as well : (over)consumption is extreme, the life and death conditions of animals are extreme, capitalism is extreme, racism is extreme in some places … Extreme acts are only called so when society decides it, more particularly when it pleases the ego of the privileged.

To summarize, denying our opinions to tolerate the ideas of the privileged is a superficial behaviour that will not solve the problem, but only interfere with the movement. Being radical only means being coherent and logical when you truly believe in something, and it is the least we can do at our level. The real change in mentalities begins with us, through indignation and rebellion, toward the changes we want to see in the system.

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